For the parents who go home from appointments feeling unheard. A 29-page kit of templates, borrowable questions, and advocacy scripts, from a neurodivergent clinician who has sat on both sides of the desk.
Get the kit · $29You are expected to arrive composed, tell your child's whole story in eight minutes, absorb clinical language in real time, and advocate without ever seeming difficult. That is a professional skill set, and you were handed it without training.
This kit is the training. Fill in your child's story once and bring it to every visit. Walk in with your concerns ranked and the questions written down. Know what to say when a referral is refused, when you're being talked over, or when your advocacy is being read as anxiety.
Your child's story as a one-page intake template you fill in once. Your concerns, ranked. What you've already tried, protected from being dismissed. A ninety-second regulation practice for the car park.
Specialist by specialist: paediatrician, psychologist, OT, speech language therapist, ADHD assessor, audiologist, educational psychologist. Five to eight questions each, written as scripts.
When a referral is refused. When you're being talked over. When you're labelled difficult or anxious for advocating. Two or three sentences for each, not aggressive, not apologetic, clear.
The Aotearoa New Zealand funding map on one page, current as of 2026, plus the common dead ends and what to do when you hit them. Outside NZ? The page doubles as a template for mapping your own system.
A post-appointment page that separates what was said from what you heard, plus three follow-up emails you can copy: the chase, the clarification, the polite escalation.
A single page for the inside of your bag. Bring just this to a hard appointment.
A 29-page A4 PDF, designed for print or screen. Lifetime access, with free updates as the system shifts (the 2026 ADHD pathway change is already in this edition). The number stays the same wherever you are, resolved in your local currency: US$29, £29, €29, A$29, C$29. New Zealand dollars at home.
Neurodivergent clinician. Disability advocate who has taken this fight as far as Parliament. Mother of medically complex and neurodivergent children, with more specialist waiting rooms behind me than I can count. Every page of this kit has been used in a real appointment first. The full 12-week bespoke pathway is where this work goes deeper, for the families who want it.
Read the longer storyThis kit is preparation and reflection. It is not legal advice and it is not medical advice, and it won't tell you what is going on for your child; that is what the specialists are for. What it will do is make sure that what you know about your child actually makes it into the room.